Week 12

  1. What is one new idea you learned from the article from Richard Miller ("Who is the boss? Power Relationships in Families")?
Husbands and wives have different responsibilities, but they function as equals.
There is a lot of controversy on how equals can have different roles, and still be equal. I felt that his point was well made and made additional sense and gave me additional information if I am challenged in the future as to why I feel equality is possible with different roles. Equality does not mean equal shares of the load though, as I feel that as we go through life, we have periods of time where we need more or less help(mother having a newborn and needing more help comes to mind) and it is a constant give and take.
  1. In what ways do you think a couple and family could benefit from having a weekly family council? What are the specific principles highlighted by Elder Ballard that would especially be relevant and applicable to a family council?
Having an equal knowledge and partnership in the marriage. Being able to discuss on a regular basis helps enlighten both partners. 
  1. As taught by Elder Eyring, how do we become one in marriage? Give an example of a couple you know that illustrates the process of becoming one. We consistently turn towards each other. Its a matter of time and devotion. Elder Eyring taught that, "we  promise always to remember Him. We do that every time we pray in His name. Especially when
    we ask for His forgiveness, as we must do often, we remember Him. At that moment we remember His
    sacrifice that makes repentance and forgiveness possible. When we plead, we remember Him as our
    advocate with the Father. When the feelings of forgiveness and peace come, we remember His patience and
    His endless love. That remembering fills our hearts with love." This gives us more power to be kind and loving towards each other. 

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