Marriage Blog

What sacrifices have you willingly made for the sake of your marriage or spouse? How has the sacrifice impacted your marriage? Having children, cleaning house, and trying to put others first. Realizing that I am not always right, and that even if I am right, it isn't worth having hard feelings towards each other. It is more important to work together and put the Lord first, together. I think of the triangle of marriage.   Here is another question that will require soul-searching, humility, and charity: What sacrifice are you currently withholding in marriage that if given willingly, would touch your spouse or your marriage in an important way? Being more of a team player. Focusing on "our" issues and resources instead of mine. President Henry B Eyring said," Pray for the love which allows you to see the good in your companion. Pray for the love that makes weaknesses and mistakes seem small. Pray for the love to make your companion’s joy your own. Pra...

Think of a couple you know well. If married, you could think of your own marriage. Would you say the marriage of this couple is characterized by positive or negative sentiment override? Unfortunately, I think my marriage is more negative then positive. We are working to be better about it though,  What are the indicators that lead you to draw this conclusion? We are constantly misinterpreting each other, and when one of us tries to make a repair, the other does not realize it, just taking it personally.  The central finding of Gottman's research is that strong marriages have strong friendship as a defining characteristic. In fact, Gottman's whole book has to do with building friendship and dealing with conflict in healthy ways so that it does not negatively affect friendship. What does Gottman mean by friendship, and why is friendship so important in marriage? It means liking the person. Really wanting to be with them,  and finding joy in companionshi...

What things in particular are you going to implement into your life to ensure that your marriage is a covenant marriage and not a contractual marriage? Working together towards a common goal. As I get closer to being married to my husband for 7 years, it is clearer then ever that marriage is not easy, and that there is more expected of oneself then an average temporary experience.  It is quite easy to want to bail out, and that does not get easier with time. Our resolve can strengthen, but there are always trials that will test us, and we need to be prepared for them. We need to be careful that we do not get comfortable, because there will always be a new test or trial for us to overcome, as a couple, and as members. It feels better to be part of a team though. Out of the three "wolves" described, do you feel one is particularly detrimental to our society? Which one? Explain. Individualism. Focus on self, is very important to being part of a team or a family. We as ...

By being assigned to read about the opinions  of the Supreme Court in  Obergefell v. Hodges  (2015), we have a better understanding of what went into the decision, and fallacies that we need to watch out for in defending our own personal beliefs. We have been tasked as a people and a church, to protect the family, what it is and what it stands for. We were tasked with this before it really became an issue. In 1995, the family proclamation came out. Most members wondered why, tucked it away as doctrine that was good to know, but didn't seem to be needed. When the need to defend the family arose, it made much more sense why the proclamation was worded the way it was. I think the biggest issue the church has about legalizing same sex marriage, is that it is redefining what a family is, and it feels that is attacking the core of what the church stands for - family. If you think about it, we are a family focused church. Our goal as members is to return to Heavenly Fath...

Week Two Blog Post I was raised in a primarily white, middle class community. I was very sheltered, home schooled and really only went to church. From my perspective until I was older, people getting divorced was very rare.As I experienced the world more, it was a little more commonplace, but until I moved to Philadelphia, I was in primarily lds communities. The people I associate with now, many of them are retired and on their second marriage, which typically has lasted longer then the first.  I agree with the idea that the relationship status of the parents are only one part of what affects children. From my perspective, while my parents were married and stayed together, they were not very happy with each other. There were many personality differences and as a result, I grew up in a home with a lot of conflict, which I greatly disliked. They are now divorced, and their relationship is a lot better. It is a weird situation though where they still live together. I t...

I will be using this blog throughout the semester to record my thoughts on what I have been studying, and how best I can apply this to my life and how it can be applied to others as well!