Week 10

  1. In a nutshell, explain in your own words what is needed to overcome gridlock (Gottman)?
Being upfront and honest about our hang ups. Also to be respectful of what is important to our partners. We all have different dreams. Even if I don't understand why it is important, it doesn't make it any less important then my dreams. As we get older, I have found that I can give my husband more room for his dreams, because I have learned how it is so important for me to have mine, and he needs that same courtesy. 
  1. What is the central message of Gottman's book?
"Here's how I can accurately predicate marriage failure rate. This is why, this is how you can be prepared for success in the future, and also know that some of what you are told about marriage just isn't true."

  1. What is the most important thing you learned from Gottman's book?
That marriage is both simple and complex and that things are never as they seem.
  1. What is the central message of Goddard's book?
  2. What is the most important thing you learned from Goddard's book?
That just communication isn't enough.  There are a lot of things that go into a successful marriage, and while communication is one of them, it isn't the end all and be all. 

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