Week 2

Week Two Blog Post

I was raised in a primarily white, middle class community. I was very sheltered, home schooled and really only went to church. From my perspective until I was older, people getting divorced was very rare.As I experienced the world more, it was a little more commonplace, but until I moved to Philadelphia, I was in primarily lds communities. The people I associate with now, many of them are retired and on their second marriage, which typically has lasted longer then the first. 
  • I agree with the idea that the relationship status of the parents are only one part of what affects children. From my perspective, while my parents were married and stayed together, they were not very happy with each other. There were many personality differences and as a result, I grew up in a home with a lot of conflict, which I greatly disliked. They are now divorced, and their relationship is a lot better. It is a weird situation though where they still live together. I try to not think about it. 

I try to avoid evil in the home by 
  • Treating family members in such a way as I would want to be treated. Making the home a positive and uplifting place to retreat from the world. Making the gospel a staple of our home life, and working together with family members to invite the Spirit into our home.

I think the decision to divorce is very situational. It is of course very important to pick the right partner, and that does have a role in whether divorce is an option or not. If the spouse is abusive, or otherwise damaging, then I think divorce is absolutely needed. If it anything less then that, and both partners are willing to work together, I think it is worth putting the effort in to save the marriage. My belief is that the most important thing to remember with the subject of divorce, is that both partners can either fight to stay together, or fight to get away from the other. It is a choice, and effort needs to come from both sides.

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