Week 4

  1. What things in particular are you going to implement into your life to ensure that your marriage is a covenant marriage and not a contractual marriage?
Working together towards a common goal. As I get closer to being married to my husband for 7 years, it is clearer then ever that marriage is not easy, and that there is more expected of oneself then an average temporary experience.  It is quite easy to want to bail out, and that does not get easier with time. Our resolve can strengthen, but there are always trials that will test us, and we need to be prepared for them. We need to be careful that we do not get comfortable, because there will always be a new test or trial for us to overcome, as a couple, and as members. It feels better to be part of a team though.
  1. Out of the three "wolves" described, do you feel one is particularly detrimental to our society? Which one? Explain.
Individualism. Focus on self, is very important to being part of a team or a family. We as humans have always worked together in some fashion, and I think as a whole, we feel better being part of something. Taking care of yourself is definitely important but there is a line between just enough, and too much. We also need to think outside of ourselves when in a relationship. Moderation in all things is important though with priorities. We can give too much and find ourselves depleted.
President Ezra Taft Benson taught that," Elijah brought the keys of sealing powers—that power which seals a man to a woman and seals their posterity to them endlessly, that which seals their forefathers to them all the way back to Adam. This is the power and order that Elijah revealed—that same order of priesthood which God gave to Adam and to all the ancient patriarchs which followed after him."
Having the blessing of sealing, can really focus our priorities. We have a really important goal to work towards, for ourselves and our family.  

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